I'm sure many, maybe even most of us, have received a picture of someone's genitals, i.e. a dick pic, at least once in our lives, either willingly or as something completely unwanted. Dick pics aren't necessarily nasty if they are sent with the consent of both the sender and especially the receiver. Still, it is nevertheless essential to understand the unwritten rules you should follow when sending a dick pic.
To many people, the sheer view of getting a picture of someone's private parts can be simply disgusting. Most women and gay men see this as a way to project their sexual desires in a pressuring uncomfortable way. Some women may even see dick pics as a sign that men hold negative attitudes towards women. This may have some reasoning, as a study published in 2019 in the journal of sex research discovered that men who send unsolicited dick pics tend to be more selfish and sexist in aggressive and benign ways.  This means that, in general, men who send dick pics without warning have been seen as holding negative attitudes and "putting women on pedestals" more often than men who don't send such pictures or ask for consent.
Most likely because of these reasons, one of our female supporters commented on unsolicited dick pics by saying:
"I have blocked every man who has ever sent me them unsolicited and told all of my single friends and shown them the evidence."
Even though these pictures don't necessarily differ substantially visually from a fine renaissance art piece, the differences, in this case, lie in the emotions and thoughts conveyed by different types of visual signals.
This is not to say; however, that dick pics are completely felonious, as they can be sent in a kosher fashion in many instances as well. You should do them right so that no negative connotations are provided by sending these pictures.
Now it might be relevant to ask, what is the right way? And that's why Giggeli is here to help out. Let's go through some of the do's and don'ts of sending those silly genital images. To make this blog post end on a more positive note, let's also quickly go through the don'ts before we go to the good parts of the lovely do's.
Don't #1 NEVER Unsolicited
As mentioned above multiple times already, don't. Don't do it just for the laughs or if you think the other counterpart would want a pic even if they have yet to express it. It's always ok to ask (as long as you also respect if you get a NO as an answer).
Don't #2 Even if someone has previously given consent to a dick pic, send it with a warning
Often people are out and about in town and doing important things. Even if you have the consent of someone to send them a picture of you naked, please do it with a warning so that the image isn't suddenly opened in front of unwanted eyes. No one wants to feel embarrassed in a meeting or on public transport when the person behind your shoulder sees your schlong-dong also.
Don't #3 Send anything unhygienic?
Dirty sheets and nails most often are gross and give a wrong impression of yourself, so unless you want to gross someone away seriously, don't.
Don't #4 Send dick pics all the time
It's less attractive than you think. And people will get bored and tired of you, so if you've obtained consent, please savour the moment instead ;).
Don't #5 Photoshopping dick pics
As Giggeli says, be proud of yours. There's no need to photoshop your member when not feeling 100% satisfied with yours. As long as you're hygienic and clean, you're often good to go (with consent,). In addition, if you photoshop yours, this may be misleading and cause confusion in the future.
Now that we've finally gotten through the don'ts let's hop right into what the dos are!
Do #1 Send a dick pic if it is asked for
This is quite obvious, consent. If someone asks you for a picture, you may send it. It's essential to keep in mind, however, that you are never obligated to do this, even if the other counterpart wants such an image. You can also say no yourself.
Do #2 Make sure you've already known each other for at least a week or two
It's crucial that you've gotten to know each other's personality and built a level of trust already before sending a picture of the baby-maker. You shouldn't do this to strangers.
Do #3 Expect no specific comments
Even with consent, people can feel slightly uncomfortable with dick pics and even more so with commenting on them. Most people won't give you any more specific comments, and that's fine. And never go so far as you'd ask for particular comments.
Do #4 Send something visually appealing?
If you're going to send a pic, you should send a good-looking one. Just be clean, and no, don't photoshop it. You can, however, show a lot in a picture, so what if you make it attractive in some way? Your own creativity can be the limit here. You can always ask a friend whether a picture is good or not if you feel unsure.
Do #5 send a picture of your face (or your cute dog) instead
Ultimately, even if you like sending dick pics, they are a problematic deed to master, and it might just work out better to send pictures of something else exciting instead. At least it's a safer and better choice and more often more visually appealing, according to Giggeli.
So here you have it, our comprehensive guide to the most controversial photos sent on mobile phones in the 21st century. Take these tips to yourself and spread the message. Let's make this world understand and follow consent even when it comes to images on smartphones.
About the writer:
The Giggeli Project creates penis-shaped design objects to break taboos and provoke discussion on genitalia. The idea behind the project is to develop products that playfully highlight everyday issues and make us think differently about them.
- I'll show you mine so you'll show me yours: Motivations and personality variables in photographic exhibitionism. Taylor & Francis. (n.d.). Retrieved July 20, 2022, from https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2019.1639036?journalCode=hjsr20
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