I'm sure many, maybe even most of us, have received a picture of someone's genitals, i.e. a dick pic, at least once in our lives, either willingly or as something completely unwanted. Dick pics aren't necessarily bad if they are sent with the consent of both the sender and especially the receiver but it is nevertheless important to understand the unwritten rules you should follow when sending a dick pic.
To many people, the sheer view of getting a picture of someone's private parts can be simply disgusting. Most women and gay men see this as a way how men project their sexual desires in a pressuring uncomfortable way. Some women may even see dick pics as a sign that men hold negative attitudes towards women. This may actually have some reasoning as a study published in 2019 in the journal of sex research discovered that men who send unsolicited dick pics tend to be more narcissistic and sexist in both confrontational and more benign ways.  This means that in general men who send dick pics without a warning have been seen as holding negative attitudes and "putting women on pedestals" more often than men who don't send such pictures or ask for consent.
Most likely because of these reasons one of our female supporters commented on unsolicited dick pics by saying:
"I have blocked every man who has ever sent me them unsolicited and also told all of my single friends and shown them the evidence."
even though these pictures don't necessarily differ substantially visually from a fine renaissance art piece. The differences, in this case, lie in the emotions and thoughts conveyed by different types of visual signals.
This is not to say, however, that dick pics are completely felonious as actually they can be sent in a kosher fashion in many instances as well. As a matter of a fact, you should do them right so that no negative connotations are provided through the act of sending these pictures.
Now it might be relevant to ask, what is the right way then? And that's why Giggeli is here to help out. Let's go through some of the do's and don'ts of sending those silly genital images. To make this blog post end on a more positive note, let's also just quickly go through the don'ts before we go to the good parts of the lovely do's.
Don't #1 NEVER Unsolicited
As mentioned above multiple times already, just don't. Don't do it just for the laughs or if you think you know the other counterpart would want a pic even if they haven't expressed it for sure. It's always ok to ask (as long as you also respect if you get a NO as an answer).
Don't #2 Even if someone has previously given consent to a dick pic, send it with a warning
Often people are out and about in town and doing important things. Even if you have the consent of someone to send them a picture of you naked, please do it with a warning so that the picture isn't suddenly opened in front of unwanted eyes. No one wants to feel embarrassed in a meeting or public transport when the person behind your shoulder sees your schlong-dong also.
Don't #3 Send anything unhygienic
Dirty sheets and nails most often are gross and give a bad impression of yourself so unless you want to seriously gross someone away, just don't.
Don't #4 Send dick pics all the time
It's not as attractive as you think. And people will get bored and tired of you, so if you've gotten consent, please savour the moment instead ;).
Don't #5 Photoshopping dick pics
As Giggeli says, be proud of yours. There's no need to photoshop your member when not feeling 100% satisfied with yours. As long as you're hygienic and clean, you're often good to go (with consent of course). In addition, if you photoshop yours, this may be misleading and cause confusion in the future.
Now when we've finally gotten through the don'ts, let's hop right into what the do's are!
Do #1 Send a dick pic if it is asked for
This is quite obvious, consent. If someone asks you for the picture, you may send it. It's important to keep in mind however that you are never obligated to do this even if the other counterpart wants such an image. You can simply also say no yourself.
Do #2 Make sure you've already known each other for at least a week or two
It's important that you've gotten to know each other's personality and built a level of trust already before sending a picture of the baby-maker. You simply shouldn't do this to complete strangers.
Do #3 Expect no specific comments
Even with consent, people can feel slightly uncomfortable with dick pics and even more so on commenting on them. Most people won't give you any more specific comments and that's fine. And never go so far that you'd ask for particular comments
Do #4 Send something visually appealing
If you're going to send a pic, you might as well send a good-looking one. Just be clean and no, don't photoshop it. You can however show a lot in a picture so what if you just make it interesting in some way. Your own creativity can be the limit here. You can always ask a friend whether a picture is good or not if you feel unsure.
Do #5 Just send a picture of your face (or your cute dog) instead
Ultimately, even if you like sending dick pics, they are a difficult deed to master and it might just work out better to send pictures of something else truly interesting instead. At least it's a safer and better choice, and more often more visually appealing according to Giggeli.
So here you have it, our comprehensive guide to the most controversial photos sent on mobile phones in the 21st century. Take these tips to yourself and spread the message. Let's make this world understand and follow consent even when it comes to images on smartphones.
- I'll show you mine so you'll show me yours: Motivations and personality variables in photographic exhibitionism. Taylor & Francis. (n.d.). Retrieved July 20, 2022, from https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2019.1639036?journalCode=hjsr20
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